Uniting the Next Generation of Parents Against Circumcision


As a nineteen-year-old woman, I only have one friend who is already a parent. She is an incredible mother to her young daughter, whose sex protected her from the circumcision debate. The rest of my peers are college-aged adults who spend an appropriately smaller amount of their free time than I do pondering infant welfare and debating a common practice that was probably performed on themselves or on their brothers. Yet in a few years, these people and I will become the newest generation of parents in America.

Being a left-leaning blogger (and young woman with a fascination for the beauty of reproduction) I’ve fallen into Internet debates about circumcision countless times. For months, I scoffed at anti-circumcision propaganda as nothing more than overzealous people elevating a minor issue out of proportion. I barely skimmed their websites, because, after all, weren’t circumcised penises cleaner than natural ones? Why couldn’t these “intactivists” spend their time advocating for a legitimate cause? No doubt this socially influenced ignorance is the reason so many wonderful parents have circumcised their sons in what they believed was their best interest. 

Before becoming an intactivist, I had discussed circumcision with a few friends who were proudly intact, and even after hearing their stories, I pathetically announced, “Well, I’m Jewish. My sons are going to be circumcised. It’s a big cultural thing.” Never mind that my personal relationship to Judaism is religiously lax and that I wear piercings, dyed hair, and makeup. My opinion was unequivocal: When it came to the permanent alteration of my hypothetical children’s genitals, no decision-making process need occur on account of my ethnicity.

It wasn’t until I saw a YouTube video about circumcision from a young woman who was pregnant with twin boys that I understood the disturbing nature of circumcision. A few hours of research on the Internet turned my formerly cavalier attitude about the procedure into a passionate quest to study and defeat it. Spreading knowledge about circumcision to people of all backgrounds is beneficial to our pro-cutting society, but my age group is a particularly important audience for this information because we are the next generation of parents who will be deciding whether to circumcise our sons. So when I realized how urgent I felt about spreading this message to my peers, I considered which pieces of information made me receptive to intactivism so that I could propagate them effectively. The following outlines a small portion of what most strongly influenced my understanding of circumcision as a violation of human rights. 

Circumcision is the only unnecessary surgical procedure in the United States that is performed without a patient’s consent. In fact, the United States is the only country in the world that routinely performs the procedure on infants for non-religious reasons. There are no compelling medical benefits to circumcision, but there is an abundance of information illustrating the damage it can create. 

Foreskin amputation dates to biblical times, but it became a popular practice in the 19th century when doctors believed it would prevent male masturbation. (Some scholars theorize that this intended prevention of Onanism—spilling one’s seed—is the same reason why circumcision became a law of the Torah). In other words, the foreskin is such a crucial part of male sexual pleasure that doctors believed its removal would eliminate the ability to pleasure oneself altogether.

The movement of a foreskin along the shaft and over the glans of the penis retains lubrication during intercourse and masturbation, which is why its absence forces many men to use synthetic lubricant during sexual activity. It should be noted that this difficulty maintaining lubrication also adversely affects female sex partners.

When medical professionals realized that circumcision was an ineffective at preventing masturbation, they invented other reasons to justify its practice. Lunacy, epilepsy, orthopedic problems, and hernias were touted as conditions curable by circumcision. Society has an apparent compulsion to justify this barbaric practice to preserve its honor, as popular contemporary myths include that circumcision is more hygienic and prevents the spread of HIV. These myths are usually pretenses for the so-called “cosmetic benefits” of the procedure, which is not only a weak social construction but is also an unforgivable reason to surgically alter a non-consenting infant’s genitals. 

In fact, male infants are born with their foreskins fused to the head of the penis like a fingernail is to a nail bed, and cleaning the child’s intact penis requires no more effort than wiping a finger. The foreskin does not need to be especially cared for until the boy is several years old and capable of handling this insignificant task. On the contrary, circumcised infants have surgical wounds on their penises for weeks or months following the procedure that can easily become infected by urine and fecal matter in their diapers. This result is certainly far less hygienic than keeping the penis in its natural functioning state and requires parents of circumcised boys to monitor their son’s health much more closely than parents of intact babies.

Foreskin is not merely an extra fold of skin. It serves to protect the glans of the penis and keeps it sensitive by shielding it from external damage from clothing, debris, and excessive air exposure, among many other potential disturbances. When it is amputated, up to 20,000 sexually sensitive nerve endings are removed with it. Without a foreskin, the glans of the penis develops a callous-like layer of keratin over it, which severely reduces sensitivity. This reason partially contributes to the fact that circumcised men have 450% of the chance of developing erectile dysfunction that intact men do. (Shocking, but nonetheless true.) It is no coincidence that Israel and the United States have two of the highest Viagra usage rates in the world.

Mutilation is defined as “the cutting off or permanent destruction of a limb or essential part,” and with the information available today, we can no longer deny that circumcision meets this criterion. Circumcision has physically and emotionally wounded millions of people. Many men regret and mourn the amputation of a body part from a procedure in which they had no choice. Worst of all, these suffering men are the lucky ones. A recent study has estimated that more than 100 infants die every year in the United States alone as the result of complications from circumcision. There are many more non-fatal complications. Many circumcised men enjoy fulfilling sex lives without issues, but this does not outweigh the disturbing implications of this harmful operation.

No penis is superior to another, nor is any vulva. Everyone should have the privilege of loving his or her genitals whether altered or intact. These incredible organs not only bring us intimacy and pleasure, but they are also the vessels through which we create life. Protecting that life is the eternal purpose of any parent, and I implore my peers: as we evolve into mothers and fathers, give your child the freedom to love his body exactly as nature made it. Understand that his cosmetic reconstruction is not your choice.

We spend nine months growing a human being. We have no right to disfigure the miraculous product of that effort with a scalpel.

Molly McFly (a pen name) is a blogger and third-year student at Indiana University, where she majors in Gender Studies and minors in Human Sexuality. She was raised as a Reform Jew in the suburbs of Chicago before moving to her current residence in Bloomington, Indiana.


  1. Well said. As restoring male, it really irritates me that so many of these misconceptions are in circulation throughout today's societal structure. It's always great to see someone helping spread the word!

  2. Rather than curse the darkness that is the American midwest, that Empire of the Bald Penis, a young Jewish woman has spoken from the heart, from her innermost womanness, and has lit a candle.

    Never forget. Circumcision is no longer a Jewish peculiarity, but a violent and disgusting American practice, perpetrated by arrogant doctors who think they know a lot more about human sexuality than they in fact know.

    Speak the truth, sister, even if your voice shakes.

    Tikkun olam!

  3. Now, these are the conclusions that I expect from Jewish intelligence.

  4. First off, I would like to thank you for your support. Secondly, I have some questions, and I mean no offense by them, so if I do, please excuse my ignorance and feel free to correct me.

    It is my understanding that animal sacrifice used to be an integral part of the jewish religion 2000 years ago, give or take. With the destruction of the Temple in Jerusalem, this practice became controversial, less so in regards to the act, moreso in regards to where the act could be done. Ultimately, the ritual was discarded and alternative means of accomplishing the end goal were found. So my question is, why can't this be done with circumcision? If, when the place for sacrifice was removed, the jewish people simply stopped sacrificing and found alternatives ways to gain forgiveness, could alternative ways for attaining that connection with god (are women not allowed to have this connection?) be used? Can you think of any off hand?

  5. You make excellent points. Lisa Braver Moss wrote on evolving Jewish practices for this site, and Dr. Mark Reiss wrote on brit shalom, an alternative ritual for Jewish people that does not include circumcision. You might want to check out these essays as they speak right to what you are saying.

  6. Thank you so much for your terrific blog post! I shared it on my facebook page, I hope you don't mind!! One of my huge goals as a future OB is to see the practices of male genital mutilation, as well as the practice of separating newborn babies from their mothers, become things of the past. Incidentally, both these practices are hugely destructive to breastfeeding, which we know prevents numerous diseases and problems over the life of both child and mother. I really like the idea of an alternative ritual/ceremony for babies. When I had my daughter, we waited a month, and had a naming ceremony for her, with friends gathered, and we gathered in a circle, and passed around a page on which I had written all the blessings I wish for my child - everybody read one blessing, or subbed their own when preferred, and it was beautiful, and meaningful (I saved the blessing page). This, or something like it, might make a more meaningful rite for all concerned, as one alternative. Anyway, point being, awesome post, and very very glad to have such an eloquent ally on such an important issue....to everyone!

    1. Thank you! I'm flattered that you enjoyed it and shared the link on your Facebook page. I'm delighted to hear that you are a future medical professional who is dedicated to spreading knowledge about circumcision! It seems so many healthcare providers remain in the dark of this procedure's many myths. I'm a supporter of natural parenting and childbirth, and it's great to hear how supportive you are of these causes in your own firsthand experience as a medical professional. I'm sure you will help many, many new families. :) And thank you for sharing your story!

  7. If a man studies the Tanakh and Talmud, keeps the holidays, donates generously to Jewish charities, takes a Jewish bride, keeps a kosher home, and raises his children to be observant Jews, who dares argue with a straight face that he is a failure in the eyes of God simply because the most private part of his body remains as God made it?

    Tikkun olam.

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